Feb
20
2011

THE SELF-POISONER: PATTERNS OF SELF-INDUCED TOXICITY – GOING OFF HALF-COCKED

THE SELF-POISONER: PATTERNS OF SELF-INDUCED TOXICITY – GOING OFF HALF-COCKED
Because of the possible detrimental consequences to one’s well-being, it is not always realistic to take a stand against a toxic intrusion. It is healthier to tolerate a toxic pattern when the available alternatives would disrupt the person’s ability to satisfy his total needs, even though they might bring relief from the poison of the immediate situation. It is a toxic effort for a person to try to resolve a poisonous situation when he doesn’t have the resources to back himself up or accept the consequences of his action. It is the responsibility of each individual to take a risk to get what he wants or to avoid what he doesn’t want.
Frank W. was characteristically restless and impatient. He sought desperately for ways to use up his enormous energy. At thirty-two, he was already a junior executive in a large corporation; however, he had little appreciation for his work or his achievements. He chronically complained about what he could do if only he had more authority. He had real talent and had been promised continued advancement.
A new executive joined the company who obviously felt threatened by Frank. Frank felt browbeaten and taunted by the attitude of the new executive, who was in a superior position. It was obvious to others as well as to Frank that he was being unfairly treated.
Frank decided to go directly to the president of the company with an ultimatum: “Either this guy goes or I go.” Unfortunately, the president was not willing to submit to this kind of pressure, and Frank went. He had no recourse but to join a new firm and start over again in a lesser, even more boring position. He had brought the toxic intrusions of the new executive to an end, but he paid the price in other ways. He had gone off half-cocked instead of using his resources to evolve a more gradual and more effective way of solving his problem.
Toxic people tend to implement the solution that provides immediate relief without considering the consequences. If they stopped to think, they might then choose moderate alternatives that might eventually be more satisfactory.
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Because of the possible detrimental consequences to one’s well-being, it is not always realistic to take a stand against a toxic intrusion. It is healthier to tolerate a toxic pattern when the available alternatives would disrupt the person’s ability to satisfy his total needs, even though they might bring relief from the poison of the immediate situation. It is a toxic effort for a person to try to resolve a poisonous situation when he doesn’t have the resources to back himself up or accept the consequences of his action. It is the responsibility of each individual to take a risk to get what he wants or to avoid what he doesn’t want.
Frank W. was characteristically restless and impatient. He sought desperately for ways to use up his enormous energy. At thirty-two, he was already a junior executive in a large corporation; however, he had little appreciation for his work or his achievements. He chronically complained about what he could do if only he had more authority. He had real talent and had been promised continued advancement.
A new executive joined the company who obviously felt threatened by Frank. Frank felt browbeaten and taunted by the attitude of the new executive, who was in a superior position. It was obvious to others as well as to Frank that he was being unfairly treated.
Frank decided to go directly to the president of the company with an ultimatum: “Either this guy goes or I go.” Unfortunately, the president was not willing to submit to this kind of pressure, and Frank went. He had no recourse but to join a new firm and start over again in a lesser, even more boring position. He had brought the toxic intrusions of the new executive to an end, but he paid the price in other ways. He had gone off half-cocked instead of using his resources to evolve a more gradual and more effective way of solving his problem.
Toxic people tend to implement the solution that provides immediate relief without considering the consequences. If they stopped to think, they might then choose moderate alternatives that might eventually be more satisfactory.
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